The most critical stage of a child’s life, the first five years, is under the control of you, the parents. By control I mean that you have the opportunity and the obligation to profoundly shape your child’s development. Children don’t simply grow up by themselves. If they do, there are likely to be unfortunate outcomes. […]
Although parenting is something most all of us do, and it is perhaps the most crucial career of any will ever have, we don’t do a good job of teaching people how to be parents. We give parents lots of advice after the fact, and there are literally thousands of websites and parenting magazines that […]
Another role of parenting that is often overlooked is what I call the role of Challenger. In this role, parents also need to know their kids, what they like and how they learn. This takes lots of time. Knowing another person, even your own child, is not easy; and they are ever-changing.
We don’t think of ourselves as cheerleaders, but think about what cheerleaders do. They praise their team and team members. They inspire. They get people excited about what they’re doing, and motivate them to come back for more.
When a child knows that they are safe, they becomes socially secure, and develop a positive self-esteem, essential for a healthy and productive life.
When basic Safety and Self Esteem needs are met, children feel comfortable taking risks, a prerequisite for being intellectually secure, and for developing cognitive and creative abilities.
To Cultivate means to nurture and develop, as in gardening or farming or growing a business. A gardener must have a certain level of knowledge and skill to be successful in growing fruit or flowers. Gardeners become highly skilled in reading the weather, observing the health of their plants, and mitigating potential damage that might […]
The development of the prefrontal cortex, located in the front part of our brains, is critical for developing the emotional and cognitive capacity required for self-regulation, what we call Executive Function; the ability to plan, concentrate, solve problems, and control our behaviors.
The basic foundation for all other growth is being physically, nutritionally and emotionally safe. Physical Safety. All of us need to be physically secure in a safe environment to learn and to be our most productive. Children who are neglected or abused don’t feel safe and are continually in ‘fight-or-flight’ mode, which causes serious physical […]
Raising smart kids is an intensely personal undertaking. A child’s very first connection to the world is through their parents. If this relationship is positive, they will have a positive view of the world. If the relationship with the child is not positive they will view the world as a negative place. This difference in […]